All mother-in-laws are not created equally, many people have a very close relationship with their mother-in-law. Many are almost as close to their mother-in-laws as their own mother, this is not as rare as it sounds. I know many guys and gals who have great relationships with their in-laws, mother-in-laws have had a bad reputation for a very long time. Funny father-in-laws do not have the reputation of being as difficult to have a relationship with as much as mother-in-laws. Family relationships are very important for people to have successful marriages and be happy and healthy, good family relationships are a very important key in your health plan. This could be one of the most important reasons some couples have happier and healthier marriages than other couples when there are family conflicts this affects the close bond of the entire family.
Anxiety & Depression
Anxiety and depression is very common during the holidays, there is much stress during the holidays for the majority of people today. Learning how to cope well with stress does determine who becomes severely depressed during the holidays and who does not if you are one who experiences anxiety and depression during the holidays regularly learning relaxation skills and coping skills is very important for you. Deep breathing through your nose and not your mouth is the simplest relaxation skill to reduce your anxiety, learning this alone can get your through the stress of the holidays. Good coping skills is important for everyone to learn today, people are under more stress now than ever during the holidays. Many families travel during the holidays to be with family, this along with your Xmas shopping can be enough stress to overwhelm anyone.
Shopping For Mother-In-Laws
Shopping for your mother-in-law is no different from shopping for your own mother or even your grandmother, consider her interests and hobbies plus her personality when choosing her Xmas gift. In most families at least one of the adults knows the person well enough to have some gift ideas, often but not always this will be the person’s child. I usually chose the gifts for the men in the family and my ex-spouse chose the gifts for the women, this worked out very well for us in the early years when we shopped for Xmas together. The later years when our marriage was not going very well we started shopping for our own families separately. When a couple is having marital problems, it shows in the gifts they give when a couple shops and makes the gift choices together often the gifts are much better with both of them working together.
Stressed Out Couples
Stressed out couples ruins Xmas more than anything else when a couple is stressed the entire family suffers. Most families will pick up when there is trouble in a marriage, especially when it is a younger couple who as much as they try they cannot hide there are problems in their marriage. Many couples become distant from one another because of stress when this happens they stop communicating with one another which is a sure sign divorce is not far away if the couple does not change their ways. This happened in my marriage very long ago, the longer we were married the more we become strangers to each other. Living in the same home married but living separate lives is very harmful for the entire family, this especially affects the children and even when they do not show it or say anything they are feeling the stress and are not as happy as they used to be. Children pick up on their parents behavior very quickly when things are going wrong, the hardest thing for children are to be divorced by their parents. Many parents compete to turn the children against the other one and if not that they both try to win the love of the children which only adds anxiety and depression in the family.
Mother-In-Law Gift Ideas
Many mothers and mother-in-laws will be the first to pick up there is trouble in a marriage, often both will try to smooth the marriage and sometimes it works and sometimes it only causes family conflicts. Fathers and father-in-laws more often stay out of a couples marriage problems unless they are asked by one of the people for their opinion, this often causes bad feelings between the mothers and the couple.If your mother-in-law is different from most you are very lucky and should show your appreciation with a thoughtful gift for Xmas, mothers and mother-in-laws are only trying to save the couple’s marriage and if you understand this, you will forgive and appreciate them much more.
What Is On My Mind Today?
Mother’s and mother-in-laws are special ladies, you should respect and appreciate both of them. Most mother’s and mother-in-laws means the best in whatever they do and say, sometimes they just try too hard to help their children. Take the time to find a gift for your mother-in-law this Xmas which will say I Love you, this is what the holidays is all about so use Xmas to give special gifts to everyone in your family and work on making your relationships very close and intimate with love and affection.