Relocation For Your Career
For the last article of my college graduates series I decided to address relocation stress, today the majority of college graduates are forced to relocate for their careers. Terrible how these young people must be separated from their friends and family just to earn a good living. My three sons are all living long distance from me, I am very grateful at least they are all in the same state. Many graduates move out of state for their careers, now many are even forced to move out of the country. Imagine the emotional stress on these young people in their 20;s, living alone in a new state or country, even some will be exposed to new cultures. It is a myth people have come up with that young people will adjust to change very easily and quickly, even young people are vulnerable to stress, anxiety and depression.
Early Warning Signs
You have worked your butt off to find an entry level position in your career field, very disgusted and tired of working several part-time fast-food jobs. Once you pay your living expenses and your student loans your broke again until next payday, this is not what you busted your butt in college for. While other students were going out to party and have fun, you was the very good student and stayed in your dorm and studied. All these sacrifices feel to have been for nothing, gee you do not even have a boyfriend right now. Knowing the signs of stress is very important, these are warning signs to you to take immediate actions or you are going to be facing serious health issues in the near future.
Negative Thoughts & Feelings
Feeling Sorry For Yourself
What To Do Next
Taking Care Of Yourself
Catching yourself falling into this trap as soon as possible will make it much easier and quicker for you to bounce back. Starting off with paying much more attention to your self care routine is a must, get back to the gym and your yoga classes. Spend more effort eating healthy meals and snacks, take frequent breaks and enjoy your favorite relaxation music.
Be open to your emotions, accept how you are feeling. Stay positive by focusing on positive things, write in your journal or diary sharing your thoughts and feelings. Humor will be a very positive tool for you right now, spend some time on your favorite websites which always make you laugh. Read motivating books, expose yourself to as much positive and motivating things as possible.
Feeling this way you really need to keep up with your relaxation techniques, meditate more often and longer if you need too. Feeling tense and tight , use progressive muscle relaxation to help relax your tense muscles. Do your deep breathing as much as needed, this will give your more oxygen and help you to remain more relaxed and able to think clearly. Visit your safe place when you are feeling overwhelmed, using visualization will allow you to take a break from your stressful life.
The Letter Arrives
Today was just like any other day, you are off today from your part-time positions at the fast-food places. The mail comes and you have a letter from one of the companies you applied for an entry position, crazy as it is you begin to feel a kind of panic inside of you. Take some deep breaths before you open the letter, the company is impressed with your college records and wishes to offer you an entry position immediately. This would be great news, but to accept the position you must relocate to London.
What Will You do
You contact the company and inform them you are interested in this position, but you need some time to consider the position since you would be relocating to London. The company treats you very nice, informs you have one week to decide. During the one week you research where you would be relocating in London, sounds like a very nice area. Beautiful scenery, the company house is incredible. This is an opportunity of a lifetime, your discuss this with friends and family. Your friends are very happy for you, your parents and siblings tell you it is your decision. You are full of excitement for this opportunity, finally getting a chance for an entry position and out of the fast-food industry. At the same time your becoming a little anxious about being on your own in a whole different country than your friends and family. You call the company and accept the position in London, the excitement is feeling you full of uncontrollable energy.
Preparing For Relocation
You have been extremely excited and full of energy, barely sleeping more than 6 hours per night with too much energy to sleep. Very busy you have all your paperwork and passport ready for traveling, packed up some things you can live without until relocated. As your departure time gets closer, the excitement is not quite as energetic, even starting to have some disturbing doubting feelings. Using self-talk you tell yourself this is just last minute jitters. Lately you have been procrastinating about doing the rest of your packing, still have a few days before you will be leaving. Anyone would be feeling the same symptoms you are, this is last minute anxiety, playing with your feelings and thoughts.
Inability To Focus
Double Guessing Your Decision
Despite your anxiety symptoms and double guessing your decision, you made it to London. The company house you moved into is awesome, almost like living in a castle for a small town country girl. The new position and the people are cool, you really do love this position and happy you did accept it Even though everything is going extremely well with the position and your career, you are experiencing some negative symptoms.
Trouble Staying Focused
Lack Of Concentration
What Is Going On With You ?
You must be crazy feeling the way you do, everything you have worked for is finally paying off. You have your dream job, an awesome home to live in. you do look forward to going to the office, the only time you feel this way is when you are not at work. You know you must snap out of this mood you are in, you made your decision, and it was the best decision of your life. So how do you snap out of this mood, this mood is relocation depression. I guess you could say it its a severe case of being home sick, now how do you adjust?
Focus On Your New Exciting Life
Accept Your Emotions
Realize This Is Normal
Acknowledge Positive Changes
Avoid Your Negative Thoughts & Feelings
Focus On Your Goals
What Is On My Mind
Today ends this series for the college student and graduates, I did my best to share some of the most dramatic experiences young people at this age will or could experience. Most students today will experience these decisions and symptoms in their lives, almost impossible for the young people not to go to college today. There just are not many jobs today for people with no college education, the days of manual labor will soon be gone. Every generation is experiencing more severe emotional health problems, learning healthy coping and relaxation skills should be taught in high school to prepare our children for handling stress, anxiety and depression without medication.