Promoting Self Esteem In Children
Why do you think some children have high self-esteem while others have low self-esteem? When you were a child was your parents and family a good example, as children we take in everything we observe in our family especially from our parents. I truly believe positive happy parents raise positive happy children, when your a child and everything you do your parents only pay attention to your mistakes it has to be a major factor in your own self-esteem. I grew up never being able to do anything right in the eyes of my father, he always seen what I did wrong never praising me for what I did right. I grew up feeling I was pretty much worthless, why even try when your only going to fail.
Four Main Factors In Self Esteem
Positive Healthy Relationships
Positive Healthy Relationships
I truly feel this is the most important factor of them all to get a good start in building your child’s self esteem, when my sons were just boys I treated them like my best friends. I think treating your children as equals, will give them a boost in their self esteem. You can enforce what you need to teach your children to grow up to have good self esteem by making them feel their worth your time and effort and you look forward to spending your time with them. Anyone can be a father, but it takes a bigger man to be a real dad.
The personal abilities of every child is very important for their self esteem, one way is to give your children the options to make some decisions on their own. Of course you need to guide them, but this will give a child much pride in themselves especially if they make good healthy decisions parents praise them for. Encouragement is very important as well, encouraging your child to try new things will help him learn new skills plus learn making mistakes is not always a bad thing. Do not make a big deal of your child’s mistakes, my father did this and I was terrified most my life to take any risks in fear of making a mistake.
Every child wants to feel they are worth your time, spending time with your children doing fun activities is a great self esteem booster for them. If you as a parent enjoy the time you spend with your child, your child will feel this. Quality time is very important for you and your child to form a close bond, be a friend to your child that is really all any child wants from you. Introducing your child to new interest and hobbies during your quality time is very beneficial to your child, most children will form an interest in most things when they are sharing it with their parents.
Be a coach to your child, encouraging your child to do new things is very important. Focus on your child’s accomplishments when doing new things, never focus on their failures. Praise them often , but do not over praise them too often. When I was a child I never wanted to try anything new, I was so terrified of making a mistake I could not enjoy new experiences. Low self esteem results in an anxious child, an anxious child is rarely a happy child and this is just not how childhood should be.
I have shared my own personal formula I used to raise my three sons, my sons now are full grown young men. I am very proud of how they have grown up, even though we do not live close in distance I know we are together in each other’s hearts. I hope this article and resources benefits you or someone you know, anyone needing to talk I am always available by leaving a comment or writing me directly.