Living With Someone With Anxiety
It takes an very extra special love to live with someone with anxiety issues, sadly the majority of people with anxiety live alone. Most were living with someone in the past, but that someone just could not deal with your issues. This is the case especially when that person becomes so ill they are not able to earn a living any longer, losing a career for people like us just about breaks our hearts and takes away our life. Most of us live for our careers, this is what keeps us going through all the negative things going on inside of us.
Helping Someone You Love With Anxiety
What helps a person struggling with anxiety issues more then anything in the entire world is for the ones they love to support and understand what they are going through, this is especially important if your loved one happens to become disabled and is not able to work any longer. Please remember, money as important as it seem for us to survive is never ever more important as the ones we love. Please never throw it in their faces they are not working or doing their share of bringing in the money, we tend to blame ourselves more then enough which only makes our condition much worse. Here are some ways you can help the one you love, I know living with us is not easy for you either but we are doing our best even when it seems we are doing nothing.
Be A Good Listener
Spend Quality Time With Us
Be Available When We Need You
Forgive Us We Are Not Ourselves All The Time
Accept Us The Way We Are Right Now
Be Our Safe Person
What You Can Do For You
It is very exhausting when your living with someone struggling emotionally with any type of issues, one thing you must be sure to do for yourself and your loved ones is take good care of yourself. Make time for yourself , even if you have to have a neighbor or another family member be with your loved one. Do not feel guilty for taking alone time, you really do deserve it. Other things you can do which will assist you in being the supportive person you wish to be for your loved one are:
Research Your Loved Ones Problems
Share Your Thoughts & Feelings With Others
Be Proud Of The Person You Are
Treat Yourself Special
Spending Quality Time With Your Loved One
Spending quality time with your loved one is another important way to help them with their anxiety, you getting them out of the house is very beneficial and might be the hardest thing you can manage to do for your loved one. Many people become hermits , they often become unable to go out of the house alone. There anxiety becomes increased at even the thought of going out alone, yes they may develop social anxiety if this is left go too long. I have found what calms a person with anxiety and able to go out the most is having someone with them they trust and love, one thing almost all people with anxiety feel calmer is in outdoor surroundings. Nature has a way of naturally calming us without us even realizing it, the reason for this is all the beauty and the wildlife takes our attention from our worries and on the beauty and wildlife around us.
I have shared some things which would have helped me in the past with my loved ones, it is a very difficult challenge to live with someone going through severe anxiety issues. It also takes someone who loves you very much, someone who is very giving and enjoys doing things for others less fortunate then themselves. This person must find a healthy balance of supporting their ill loved one and taking care of themselves, you must have a open heart and block out many things your ill loved one might do or say at times. Try to remember this is the anxiety talking and doing these things, this is not the person you love and care for. Encourage your loved one when they do something you know is very difficult for them, such as going out with you in public if you know this is something which really is scary for them. Support them, take baby steps with them until they are well again. Never ever push your loved one to do things before they are able too, this could set them backwards and the last thing that you want to do.