Social Anxiety Part Two
In part one of how to deal with social anxiety without medication I gave you some ideas of what social anxiety is, how being shy and having this condition are actually two very different things. I hope some of you have returned who read part-one and your anxious to learn more about this condition and how to deal with it, I feel it is especially important in this article we discuss how this condition controls children’s lives and some of the triggers. Since I have lived with this condition all my life, you can be sure what I am sharing with you is from my own experiences plus my research over the years to overcome this myself to the best of my ability.
Children With Social Anxiety
The majority of the children who live with this condition spend the majority of their first five years in close contact with their family members, many never have been separated from their family during this period of their lives. Many parents sadly misunderstand the first time their child experiences social anxiety as separation anxiety, these really are two completely different conditions. Separation anxiety is much less severe then social anxiety, also children experiencing separation anxiety usually adjust very quickly. Where children with social anxiety usually do not adjust quickly, also many times this is a trigger which increases their symptoms. Another thing which is increasing this condition in children today is many are home schooled, which is not a bad thing except they are not receiving experience interacting with other children.
Children With Social Anxiety Triggers
The majority of children with social anxiety will experience their first trigger when starting kindergarten or grade school, children with this condition are terrified and very confused not understanding what is going on with them. Many children will express to their parents and teachers that they do not feel good, to these children they feel sick. Any adult with this condition realizes how overwhelming this is for them, just imagine a child experiencing this for the very first time how they would feel and react. Children who grow up in a more rural area often develop this condition more severely at a young age then children living in a large town or a city. The reason for this is because children living in a more populated area experience social interaction at a much younger age more often then children living in a rural area, many children experiencing this condition does not do well adjusting to school. Many do not talk in school very much if at all, many just are so anxious they can not think of things to talk about to the other children. Many even have problems answering questions from the teacher, many of these children are terrified to say the wrong thing or just can not think to answer the question. The majority of these children have very low self-esteem even at this age, they know there is something wrong with them and they are not like the other children. Many seldom smile when in school or out in public, they are just so uncomfortable and miserable and possibly frightened and just want to get back to their home.
Children With Social Anxiety Treatment
The best treatment for a child with this condition would be to ease them into social settings, preferably this should be started as soon as possible. The best pre-school treatment to help these children be prepared for kindergarten or school, I suggest taking them to a public playground. This must be done very slowly and short periods at first, this is a very good start just because there are other children to interact with. Another biggie is , the playground will ease their anxiety with the playground equipment. This should be done frequently on some sort of schedule, maybe start out once a week on a Saturday for one hour. Then as the child becomes comfortable and makes a few friends, increase the frequency and the time period. This will make such a big difference for the child when they start school, another option is to take them to a summer bible school or even day-care. Summer bible school and day-care should not be done before the child is comfortable in social settings with other children. These children must be exposed to these situations slowly, if not they will experience very severe dramatic emotional anxiety symptoms. I seriously know from my own experience from my parents pushing me into new social settings, this is totally the wrong thing to do. This only will make the child more anxious, they will not enjoy the experience or make friends so it really is the worse treatment you can do for the child.
With children being home schooled and the majority of their interaction is online, children are not experiencing the social skills they require. I do feel home schooled is a very positive factor today in a child’s education, but at the same time it is lacking in many children’s lives to learn how to socialize with other children. I lived in a very rural area with no children my age within distance to socialize with, when I started school it was a very dramatic emotional experience for me. It was an experience which I never recovered from, my symptoms only became worse the farther I progressed in school. Next article I will discuss the how much the terrible teens can be for a teenager with social anxiety, I hope you will stick with my articles you will receive very beneficial information how to deal with social anxiety without medicines in due time. I really believe its very important for people to understand what these people experience in their lives, how it controls their lives and prevents them from being the person they really could be. We as a society should take the time to learn and understand what these people are going through, many of these people are thought to be stuck up, rude or just not friendly. I can assure you this is not the case at all, these people are just being controlled by their anxiety and are not able to function well.