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How To Deal With Social Anxiety Without Medication-Baby Steps Part One



How To Deal With Social Anxiety Without Medicine

First I would like to thank you for reading my article today, I have been dealing with social anxiety for over fifty years. I wish to share with you everything I know to help you to deal with your own social anxiety as well. There is just too much to share with you in this article, so I decided to make this a series of articles. The first and most important key is to take baby steps, if your dealing with this condition you realize how easy it is to get overwhelmed taking too big of steps too soon. The second key I recommend is improving your brain health through diet and nutrition, you can not cope with such a serious issue if your brain is not healthy. By improving your brain health you will experience less severe symptoms as your brain becomes healthier, this will allow you to move forward slowly but surely in improving your social anxiety.  third step will be finding the right natural herbal supplement for you. Every supplement does not work for everyone the same, your an individual person and you need the correct herbal supplement which works with your brain chemistry. The last step which will be the one which will help you to deal and cope with your social anxiety well enough to function in social public situations, this step I will share with you all the coping skills I have learned and experimented with over the past fifty years.



What Is Social Anxiety

It is clear to me the people who decide what is a disorder and what is a chronic disease does not have to deal with this condition, I know from my own experience this can be for many of us a very debilitating disease. There are three levels of this condition, mild , moderate and severe.


Mild Social Anxiety

If you suffer from the mild level of this condition, it still has such a dramatic effect on your quality of life. People with this level usually are able to function in more social settings then the other levels, but they usually are restricted by certain social settings they will avoid as much as possible. For some it might be traveling, other it might be attending a music concert or similar crowed event. Crowds is the most common trigger for this condition, most people with this level will be able to function fairly well in life as long as they can avoid their social triggers. Also people with this level often are able to attend most social events with other people, but will avoid them if they have to attend them alone.



Moderate Social Anxiety

People with this level of the condition of course is much more restricted then people in the mild level, usually these people are still able to function pretty well. They are usually restricted to specific occupations to avoid overwhelming symptoms, more likely they attend much less social events and never alone. These people have learned how to get around their situation and still be able to function, but sadly this condition very much controls their lives. These people are much more depending on others, many things they just avoid to keep from becoming overwhelmed.


Severe Social Anxiety

This level of this condition has completely taken control of these people’ lives, I was one of these people for many years. People in this level usually are loners, often single or divorced. Marriages and relationship are very difficult for these people, their anxiety just keeps them from being able to do the things you need in a healthy loving relationship. Friendship is extremely difficult, these people are very quiet and isolate most of the time at home. Most if they ever did work, lose their jobs because of the severity of this condition. Going out just to do everyday errands most people think nothing about is very emotional and difficult for these people. It is not that these people do not have the interest to do things and go out, they just can not overcome the control of this condition. These people usually hate the way they are, often these people feel they are only existing without a purpose in life.



Social Anxiety Symptoms

The symptoms of this condition basically is the uncontrollable fear of being in large social settings, especially crowds are the main triggers for most of the people with this condition. I want to make something very clear which is very much misunderstood by people who do not have this problem, there is a huge difference between being a shy person and having this condition. As I as growing up I was labeled as just an extremely shy person, so my condition left untreated and as the  years went by my symptoms became more severe. People with this condition often are quiet people, many if they have any close friends they will be very few. Most of these people prefer a small group of friends or family, many do not go out to big parties or fancy events. Most often these people are not popular in school, but at the same time they are well liked by everyone. Introverts does not come close to describing these people and their lifestyle, their hobbies usually are things they can pursue alone since they do not usually form close relationships with others. This condition causes over time other issues for them, such as depression from spending so much time alone. Frustration and low self-esteem, many really dislike themselves the way they are but they just can’t understand what is wrong with them. Sadly other people just can’t understand what these people are going through, even the simplest things for others can be very emotionally difficult and energy draining for these people.


Final Thought

This is just a brief description of social anxiety and how it effects people’ lives, I hope to get into this in even more detail in my next article. I hope this has been interesting enough some of you will be anxiously waiting for my next article, anxiously in a good way of course. (Smile) I assure you if you are experiencing this condition do not give up hope, if I could learn to deal with social anxiety you can too.



18 thoughts on “How To Deal With Social Anxiety Without Medication-Baby Steps Part One

  1. This is an excellent post on a very serious issue. I personally know of people who suffer from severe social anxiety. I have seen how this has adversely affected their lives. I will be forwarding this article to them. I look forward to reading the series on this topic.

    You say that you also suffered from this. What was your best coping mechanism? Thanks again.

    1. Thank You Rodney,

      I very much appreciate your comment and feedback on this article, I know from my own experience the impact this has had on my own life. Helping others with this has become very important to me, its more then a series of articles it is a quest to reach out to others with HELP.


  2. Thank you so much for this informative article. I felt kind of sad reading it, to be honest. It seems like a very difficult condition. I am more of an introvert than extrovert and am comfortable by myself. your article made me have a look in the mirror and see the importance of not only looking after your physical health but also how important it is to look after brain health. There are certain people that i have met in my life that probably suffer from this condition yet I like most people probably thought they were just very shy. your article made me realize that there is more than just shyness, that social anxiety is a serious condition. I wish you the best with your website. I’m sure it will help a lot of people.

    1. Thank You Robert

      I appreciate you taking the time to read my article, this is a very sad condition and is not taken seriously enough by the medical board as a disability. Being a introvert is not a negative thing, but when it controls what you do and where you go then it is more then being introverted and shy.


  3. Very informative and interesting article. I think this condition has been misunderstood for a long time and most of the people doest even know it exists and how serious it is.

    I’m very interested in social anxiety in children. Actually, I have a website about it (, so I will come back to see your next posts.

    Thanks for sharing this, it will for sure bring awareness about social anxiety!

    1. Thank You Jenny
      I appreciate your comment and our mutual interest in children’s health,
      my next article on the social anxiety series is how it effects children’s


  4. Thanks Celiac man for this article on Social Anxiety. It’s been an eye opener. I think quite a number of people have this challenge and this article will be very helpful. Thanks for also drawing the line between being shy and this phenomenon. In fact it could easily be misconstrued to be shyness at the mild stage (just as in your own case..)which makes it a very crucial issue to be looked at. Good to hear from someone with a personal experience of this phenomenon and can’t wait for an update on this. Thanks

    1. Thank You Bonto

      I appreciate your comment very much, I really feel many people are misdiagnosed as being shy when a child and by the time it becomes obvious its more their symptoms are very severe.

      Next Articles Coming Soon


  5. I Love it your website is very touching to me. I have severe anxiety and reading your article helped me a lot. The article reached every question that will be asked about social anxiety. A lot of people do not understand what it really is. I really believe this is the website for everyone who suffer from social anxiety and have questions.

    1. Thank You Dereshia

      I am happy your left a comment and enjoyed my articles on social anxiety, this is a very emotional topic for me and I just wish to share with others some things which I feel might help others suffering as well. I hope you check in for my next article, it is going to be on teenagers experiencing social anxiety.


  6. Hello Robert,
    Thanks for shining light on this condition. I have heard this term be used several times, although now I have a clearer definition.

    Throughout my life I was bullied constantly, which led to me being lonely and functioning by myself. There were times in elementary school where I remember sitting with my head in my lap against the brick wall at recess crying. Often times questioning why no one liked me.

    Both of these factors combined caused me to have trouble forming relationships. I would classify myself as someone with severe anxiety. However I am able to work, and am gradually improving.

    I worked through some of my social anxiety through giving back by serving in kids at my church. When serving in kids I know I make a difference, and seeing that gives me a higher self esteem and confidence level.

    Was something like this what helped you cope with your social anxiety?

    1. Thank You Cameron

      I appreciate your comment and question, I am sorry you had such an experience being bullied. That is common for people with social anxiety, low self-esteem and being bullied happens way too often. I was not bullied thank god, but I was a loner and people just seemed not to bother me or maybe they did not notice me since I kept such a low key appearance.

      I admire you helping the children in your church, one of the things which has helped me is to do something nice for others as often as I can. This will boost your own self-esteem and help you move forward a little easier, my next article just happens to be on social anxiety and teenagers.

      Keep Doing For Others It Will Do Much For You As Well


  7. Hi

    This is a great post bringing awareness to a very common condition that’s in the world today.

    I suffered from social anxiety for years and even though it was right in front of my face and even the people around me were telling me to get help but I was in denial, its something that needs to be addressed.

    1. Thank You Ben

      I am amazed the people coming forward since I started this series of articles who have experience this themselves or know someone who has, many people do not realize themselves what their problem even is many times, its nice you did have people who was aware you needed help. Denial is very common, especially when we are young (teenagers). My next article is on teenagers with this condition, I thank you for coming forth with your experience.


  8. Hey Jeff, your article really touched me. Recently my wife got me to take a psychometric test to determine my personality trait. I wasn’t surprised that the result stated I was an introvert. I prefer my own space and don’t cope well in large social settings.

    I had never heard of social anxiety before reading your article. Thank you for making this information available- It will help a lot of people. It certainly put things into context for me.


    1. Thank You Jay

      Its very good to hear from you, many people are introverts and get by without too much problem in their life. When we have social anxiety it is a big problem for us, it keeps us from doing what we really are interested in and from going to events we would like. I am receiving good feedback from this series of articles on this condition, I just hope some people who need the help reads my article.


  9. Thank you so much for such an educative article.A friend of mine has a son, in his early twenties. There was a time when he led an almost normal life: going to school and mixing with other teens. But he started withdrawing and isolating himself. Now he spends all his time indoors watching television and playing games. He doesn’t have close friends and turns down party invitations. I have bookmarked this site for my friend.

    1. Thank You ZEGU

      Your friend’s son does show some social anxiety symptoms, social anxiety also will give a teenager depression after a while. I am writing my next article on teenagers experiences with this condition. I am writing this series in very small steps for people to get the true idea how this effects a person’s life at different stages of their lives. If your friend’s son does not have social anxiety, this behavior very well could lead to this condition, the longer a person behaves like this the more severe the condition will become.


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