Teenagers With Social Anxiety
Being a teenager is difficult enough with crazy unpredictable hormones and peer pressure, but add social anxiety to the mixture and you have a very miserable, confused and frustrated teenager. As a teenager with social anxiety I experienced many classmates with this condition being bullied by the school bullies all the time, I was very fortunate the bullies did not bother me. The only explanation I have for this, I was a loner in school and possibly the bullies was not sure if I was an easy prey or not? Speaking of bullies, these teens are handling their anxiety in an aggressive way to boost their own self-esteem. So you have two types of teens with anxiety handling their anxiety in two completely different ways, one bullying others and the other isolating themselves from others as much as possible just to survive.
Teens Experiencing Social Anxiety
Teenagers experiencing social anxiety is a much different experience then during the childhood years, during childhood years the majority of these children are more likely isolated or ignored by their classmates. As teens they are often mistreated by the bullies, their remainder classmates do not bully them but at the same time they are mistreating them by not associating with them in a friendly way. The Majority of teens in this situation feel they are not liked by their classmates, more often their classmates see these students as unfriendly, rude or possibly even anti-social. I know from my own experience that was not the case, my anxiety just kept me from being able to socialize with my classmates. These teens besides feeling they are outcasts, very often do not do well academically and dislike attending school very much. In my case, I felt I was dumb and not as intelligent as my classmates. At that time, I did not realize it was my anxiety preventing me from achieving in my studies. I would take a failing grade despite wishing to achieve in school, the reason for this failing grade was I was not able to stand up in front of my classmates to do assignments such as book reports and similar assignments. At this time social anxiety was controlling my life in a much more severe way then my childhood days, as a teen this condition effects your self-esteem as well as your ability to achieve good grades.
Teens With Social Anxiety Symptoms
The symptoms for teens with this condition for the majority of victims is isolation, teens in this situation find solitude in alone time. You will rarely see such teens attend football games, dances and other after school activities. These activities are just too emotionally draining for these people, their anxiety prevents them from enjoying the experience. Often these people feel much worse being out around other people, they are often paranoid feeling everyone is judging them. Sadly many of these people become very depressed, even possibly suicidal wishing to just find a way to end the situation. Some of these people even experience such a negative feeling about themselves, they will turn to self mutating themselves. This is their way of punishing themselves for being the way they are, sadly this is very common and many end up accidentally ending their own lives. These people are known in the medical world as “Cutters”, they cut themselves to punish themselves or sometimes just to feel something because they become so emotionally numb. These are the more serious symptom to watch out for in teens with this condition, anyone experiencing these symptoms needs to get professional help immediately.
Teen Social Anxiety Treatment
Teens with this condition should consider counseling, not so much to solve their problems but to have someone to talk to can very well save their lives. I myself have had many years of counseling, sadly I did not receive counseling until my early 40’s, living in a rural area this was not available or well known about at the time I was a teenager. Honestly counseling did not solve my social anxiety, it did however kept me from becoming severely depressed and suicidal. I do not have much faith in medication for this condition, medication will not cure you but it can keep you more stable until you overcome this condition to the point you can deal with it . In the next article we will begin to find coping skills you can experiment with , plus I will share with you how you can learn to deal with this condition much better in the future. There is no fast fix for learning to deal with this condition, but I assure you if I could learn to deal with this as well as I am today you can also learn by just being patient and not being so hard on yourself.
Attention Parents Of Troubled Teens With Social Anxiety, I Highly Suggest You Not Force Your Teens Into Attending Social Activities And Participating In Activities Which Makes Them Anxious. This Is Often A Trigger Which Could Make Their Condition Even More Severe, Seek Professional Help Please!!!!
Surviving through your teens with social anxiety is an accomplishment all of its own you should be very proud of, I have experienced natural herbal supplements has helped me the most to deal with this condition. With the right herbal supplement for your brain chemistry and the right coping skills, you can learn to deal with social anxiety without medication. The majority of the physicians sadly want to prescribe medications, medications has their place but I feel they are used too freely too often before natural methods are tried.